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What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stronger, In Our Every Day Lives

Who doesn’t love the latest Girl-Power anthem, performed with great energy and passion by Kelly Clarkson who belts out: “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger?”

Every time I hear it, I want to press the accelerator a little harder, go a little faster, bounce in my seat, and sing out loud. If I’m at home, I simply must move, dance, and celebrate being strong, a survivor.

Birth Control Controversy: Can’t We Trust Women to Govern Their Own Bodies?

I’m a big fan of Easy A, the 2010 film starring Emma Stone and Amanda Bynes. It’s a fanciful romp through the halls of America’s high schools where bullying, gossip, and rivalries never end in lethal outcomes and the tormentors take a healthy dose of humility by movie’s end.

Olive, the protagonist, bears the harsh judgment of her peers, especially that of the antagonist, Marianne, a proselytizing Christian who spreads the word about Olive’s fictional tryst. In real life, such rumors would drive most high school girls into an eating disorder or depression, but Olive is very self-aware, the daughter of two actualized and trusting parents who do not require that she stay home, cloistered, even when she begins dressing like Pretty Woman before Richard Gere rescued her from the streets.

Making Your Vision Happen With Action

Seeing what you want and making your vision a reality is not just a good idea or a philosophy–it’s action.  It is the work, effort, and process of doing what it takes to build the Vision.  Your Vision.

If I lost you at Golf  last week, thanks for coming back.  I won’t use any more sports analogies, for now anyway.  I hope my last post got you thinking as to what you want to see happen in your life by 2013 and beyond in both the Big picture and in the small areas.

We Must Fight Domestic Abuse: The War On Terror Is At Home, Not Abroad

In my previous post, Gender Politics: Coach Paterno of Penn State and Candidate Herman Cain, I lamented the jeopardy in which women greet each day. Many of us are not safe in our own homes or on the streets of our own communities. A recent study has once again proven what we already know. Even as Secretary of State Hilary Clinton spoke against Egyptian violence against women, our own CDC (Center for Disease Control) released the results of a telephone survey about “sexual violence, stalking, and intimate partner victimization.” The responses of 16,500 men and women suggest that one in three (or 33%) women and one in four (or 25%) men have experienced violent assault, prolonged threats, and powerlessness.

Gender Politics: Coach Paterno of Penn State and Candidate Herman Cain

I had an essay ready for post, and you’ll still read it—just not today. Driving home after visiting my elderly mother, the audiobook that had kept me company ended. Cast adrift, between clear NPR signals, I surfed the channels, pausing when I heard talk. A man whose voice sounded as if he could be drawing Social Security held forth on the subject of Coach Paterno, still head football coach at Penn State as of this moment.

To Change the Education System, We Need to Strengthen Our Belief in Our Teachers

Select women in the U. S. now “suffer the slings and arrows of outrageous Fortune” (Hamlet). Daily, in boardrooms and dining halls, living rooms and the halls of government, certain women are under siege, belittled, and scorned. Their meager wages and hopes for a retirement erode as Wall Street plays with pension money, and legislatures, dominated by men, gut the hard-fought right to bargain for good wages and benefits.

The Power of Peace and Conviction: Women End a 14-Year Civil War in Liberia

Do you remember Aristophanes’ naughty play, Lysistrata? In it, Aristophanes creates lusty women who vow to remain chaste until the men negotiate a peace between Athens and Sparta. The women plan to play the siren, then rebuff the men’s attempts to sate their appetites. Women also seize the Acropolis, the home of the Athenian treasury, disabling the men’s access and thereby blocking funds for a war that leaves women home alone, unsatisfied, some widowed, some forced to bury their sons.

The Women’s Liberation Movement Then and Now: Have We Truly Learned to Speak for Ourselves?

In the last years of my college education, the Women’s movement sprang from a new consciousness spreading across our nation, a consciousness that questioned the U. S. presence in Vietnam, that celebrated the first Earth Day, that challenged segregation and separatism, that marched toward the Supreme Court in behalf of a woman’s right to choose. Those years were years of discontent and debate, of doubt and desire, of duty and decision.

The State of the Woman in the Workplace in 2011: It Could Be Better

Last night, I attended a talk in San Francisco’s pariSoma building in SOMA given by Nita Singh Kaushal, Founder of Miss CEO. My intentions were to pick up some tips, likely ones that I’d heard before, meet other women, and see if there were any interested writers for enableher.

As we sat through introductions and Nita began with statistics on the state of women in the workplace from this year, 2011, I began to feel I was going to get more out of this than I originally thought. The numbers flashed on screen: “women are making an average of 77.5 cents for every dollar a man makes,” “female CEOs are receiving compensation packages that were 85% the size of male CEOs, controlling for company size and other variables,” “40% of women are primary household breadwinners.”

How to Become a Writer for enableher.

write for us.

There are two ways to contribute to enableher…

we’re looking for weekly, bi-weekly, and monthly columnists

Take a look at all the categories and subcategories we have listed on the site. If you think you can contribute on a weekly, bi-weekly, or monthly basis to any one of those categories (OR, if you think a category is missing, I’ll add it!), talk to us! We don’t limit you on what you want to write about, as long as it falls within the themes of positivity, encouragement, and inspiration. Talk about yourself, talk about the amazing people you know, talk about advice you’d like to share with others– believe it or not, your words could change someone else’s life.

As a Weekly Columnist, you will be featured on our Authors List with your photo, biography, and contact information if desired. You’ll have your own blogger account, and your own profile page that will list all the articles that you write for us. Your picture and title will also be listed in the right-hand column of all the categories that you write for. You must be available to make a commitment to write one article per week, bi-weekly, or monthly, (but of course we’re flexible if you need a break now and then– life happens :) . If you’re interested, fill out the form in the Write For Us page!

do you have one or two amazing stories to share? become a Guest Blogger

Find yourself procrastinating on that memoir you keep meaning to start, and you don’t have time to be a regular columnist? Share your story with us as a Guest Blogger, and contribute to our collection of inspiring success! We want to gather as many stories and tips as we can from women just like you who have experienced what it’s like to work hard and achieve your goals. Give back by sharing what you went through, and what you wish you knew then that you know now. Whether you have a piece of advice, or just want to tell your own personal history, we want to hear from you!

As a Guest Blogger, you will be featured on our Guest Blogger List with your photo, biography, and contact information if desired. There is no obligation to write for us regularly. If you’re interested, fill out the form in the Write For Us page!

to all writers

While we can’t pay you for your time, rest assured that all the content you write belongs to you and that by contributing, you give us permission to publish, but the rights stay with you, the author. We do ask that, as a courtesy, if you do write something for us, that the writing be all-original (not an article or story you’ve copied and pasted, or reused over and over).

the vision

We are dedicated to anyone who wishes they had a female mentor or a strong role model, and to every woman who has achieved or wants to achieve her own success. We’re here to tell your stories, and inspire others to reach their ambitions with real life examples.

enableher. has 3 goals:

  1. to collect as many writers and stories/advice/inspirational pieces as we can
  2. to be the best place to read about amazing women who inspire the world– yes, the world
  3. and to promote everyone who contributes to this publication
And the only way we can achieve all three goals is with your help and your stories.

thank you!

Whatever you choose to write for us, we thank you sincerely. We can’t be successful without you, and in turn we wish you the best in everything that you do!


Jessica Chan
Jessica Chan
enableher. Editor
Connye Griffin
Connye Griffin
Teacher, Writer, and Editor
Tamara Leigh
Tamara Leigh
World Traveler