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How to Find a Mentor and Form a Relationship

As a follow-up to my last post, I thought I’d pose some ideas on how to establish a life mentor or mentors in your own life. There are two steps to this – finding a mentor and forming a mentor. Once you do these two things, it’s a matter of sticking with it and making a commitment to getting together regularly.

Finding a Mentor

As I mentioned in my earlier post, my mentors came to me as part of a faith-based group. Faith-based groups are a great place to find mentors, as you are already in a more open, vulnerable place when in one of these groups. So, a prayer, meditation, or support group can be a great place to find a mentor.

Karen Blaine Talks About Hypnotherapy, Her Chosen Practice

This is a guest blog by Karen Blaine, a certified hypnotherapist starting her own practice in Westlake Village.

I have always wanted to help others in a therapeutic way. I considered pursuing psychotherapy, but then I discovered hypnotherapy and personally found that it provides a more direct and lasting impact.

Finding conversational hypnotherapy was exactly what I wanted to do. Since I completed my bachelor’s degree in Speech Communications, I have always been interested in exploring the inner depths of the soul. Exploring and helping people integrate the conscious with the subconscious, and getting certified in the process, was like a dream come true.

Confessions of a Workaholic: Turning Work Experience Into Expertise

I’ve never only held one single job. Ever since college, I’ve always balanced freelance and side work while being fully employed in either a full-time job or school.

I have Craigslist to thank– I am a Craigslist addict. To me, Craigslist is not just a site, but a gateway to a world of opportunities, and I’ve probably applied to and been hired to over 30 jobs and gigs on Craigslist. Even though I did go to college, I would say that I learned more lessons and real life skills from Craigslist than I did at UC Berkeley.

Slow Down and Make Good Decisions, Not Fast Ones

I like fast. I like to think fast, do fast, decide fast, accomplish fast. When I’m not going a mile a minute from one place to another, my mind is. And sometimes, that’s not a great thing.

I noticed this a couple years ago, and really started to notice after working with a certain individual– let’s call him Bruno. Compared with the way I usually did things, Bruno does things slowly. At first, this irritated me because it left me often wondering: “where’s the follow-up,” “I thought we agreed on this,” and “why aren’t we moving on this? I’m ready to go!” I felt like a speedy little motorcycle, revving my engine and waiting for that stoplight to turn green.

What Happens When You Start To Get Too Much Freelance Work: Learn to Scale

Too much freelance work? More than you can handle? What a great problem, especially in this economy.

I just came back from Startup Weekend EDU and it was an incredible experience, one that I’ll be writing on later. It was a great way to actually show what I could do as a freelance designer/front-end coder during the 54 hour “hackathon,” — more valuable I think than even a portfolio and definitely more “show don’t tell” than the sometimes-stuffy networking events. As a result, I made quite a few contacts that may turn into potential clients.

Bragging Is an Art: No One Knows How Great You Are Until You Tell Them

Question: why don’t women brag more? I’m not saying women don’t brag, or that men do brag, but I am asking why women don’t brag more.

I talked to three different women today who weren’t sure what to write about for this publication. (Yes, I realize I talk about enableher. a lot, but what can I say– it’s given me a lot to write about.) And all three of them had trouble because they were trying to start at the beginning. They wondered how to write on how they began their career, or how they remember their first classes, or they were at a loss as to what point they should even begin.

Thank You For Your Inspiration, Steve Jobs (1955-2011)

I only heard of the death of Steve Jobs an hour ago, and amidst the Facebook feeds flooding, Twitter failing, and my local public radio station KQED reprising the announcement, I realized: this was a great, great man.

Great people die. That’s just a fact of life. And we hear about it, much in the same way I am hearing about Steve Jobs’ death right now, and it’s saddening because it’s tough to see great people leave the world. It’s also chilling to me because it reminds me that death does take us all in the end. He was only 56.

The State of the Woman in the Workplace in 2011: It Could Be Better

Last night, I attended a talk in San Francisco’s pariSoma building in SOMA given by Nita Singh Kaushal, Founder of Miss CEO. My intentions were to pick up some tips, likely ones that I’d heard before, meet other women, and see if there were any interested writers for enableher.

As we sat through introductions and Nita began with statistics on the state of women in the workplace from this year, 2011, I began to feel I was going to get more out of this than I originally thought. The numbers flashed on screen: “women are making an average of 77.5 cents for every dollar a man makes,” “female CEOs are receiving compensation packages that were 85% the size of male CEOs, controlling for company size and other variables,” “40% of women are primary household breadwinners.”

Get Out There, Make Mistakes, and Move On

In my last post, I talked about how much Terry Gross inspires me not only because she herself has achieved so much, but because she reminded me that almost everyone, no matter how accomplished they are, started in a place less glamorous, less impressive, and less experienced. A simple truth, but a comforting one.

But what happens once you really start gaining traction? Whether you’re progressing in your career and gaining more responsibilities, or an opportunity comes along and you’re asked to show your skills in front of a large audience– the higher up you go, the further you have to fall. This too, can be a scary prospect.

How to Become a Writer for enableher.

write for us.

There are two ways to contribute to enableher…

we’re looking for weekly, bi-weekly, and monthly columnists

Take a look at all the categories and subcategories we have listed on the site. If you think you can contribute on a weekly, bi-weekly, or monthly basis to any one of those categories (OR, if you think a category is missing, I’ll add it!), talk to us! We don’t limit you on what you want to write about, as long as it falls within the themes of positivity, encouragement, and inspiration. Talk about yourself, talk about the amazing people you know, talk about advice you’d like to share with others– believe it or not, your words could change someone else’s life.

As a Weekly Columnist, you will be featured on our Authors List with your photo, biography, and contact information if desired. You’ll have your own blogger account, and your own profile page that will list all the articles that you write for us. Your picture and title will also be listed in the right-hand column of all the categories that you write for. You must be available to make a commitment to write one article per week, bi-weekly, or monthly, (but of course we’re flexible if you need a break now and then– life happens :) . If you’re interested, fill out the form in the Write For Us page!

do you have one or two amazing stories to share? become a Guest Blogger

Find yourself procrastinating on that memoir you keep meaning to start, and you don’t have time to be a regular columnist? Share your story with us as a Guest Blogger, and contribute to our collection of inspiring success! We want to gather as many stories and tips as we can from women just like you who have experienced what it’s like to work hard and achieve your goals. Give back by sharing what you went through, and what you wish you knew then that you know now. Whether you have a piece of advice, or just want to tell your own personal history, we want to hear from you!

As a Guest Blogger, you will be featured on our Guest Blogger List with your photo, biography, and contact information if desired. There is no obligation to write for us regularly. If you’re interested, fill out the form in the Write For Us page!

to all writers

While we can’t pay you for your time, rest assured that all the content you write belongs to you and that by contributing, you give us permission to publish, but the rights stay with you, the author. We do ask that, as a courtesy, if you do write something for us, that the writing be all-original (not an article or story you’ve copied and pasted, or reused over and over).

the vision

We are dedicated to anyone who wishes they had a female mentor or a strong role model, and to every woman who has achieved or wants to achieve her own success. We’re here to tell your stories, and inspire others to reach their ambitions with real life examples.

enableher. has 3 goals:

  1. to collect as many writers and stories/advice/inspirational pieces as we can
  2. to be the best place to read about amazing women who inspire the world– yes, the world
  3. and to promote everyone who contributes to this publication
And the only way we can achieve all three goals is with your help and your stories.

thank you!

Whatever you choose to write for us, we thank you sincerely. We can’t be successful without you, and in turn we wish you the best in everything that you do!